The mantra in meditation this morning went something like this, on your inhale say quietly to yourself “I welcome this moment in fully,” and on your exhale “I welcome this moment in as a friend.” I caught my mind drifting off, thinking about everything I’m excited about right now in my business, at the studio, with my blog, the book I want to write, etc. This adventure in my head happened often during the meditation. However, I was able to bring my mind back to my breath every time I caught it wondering. Surprisingly I wasn’t getting frustrated with myself. The teacher asked how we felt at the end of the practice and if that technique worked for us. I replied that I felt “patient.” I gave that answer because each time my mind wandered and I brought it back to the mantra “I welcome this moment in fully. I welcome this moment in as a friend.” I encouraged myself to be patient in approaching all of these things in my life. Yes, it’s a lot of work and yes, I don’t know where I will find the time, but each time I inhaled and exhaled I became more patient and more aware that all great things take time and I will accomplish everything I want to as the time permits and as the universe allows.
It’s also important to practice patience in The Bar Method. It’s a path to mastery and we all started from the beginning. We all have one thing in common…we are ambitious, hungry for results and excited about change, but we need to be patient and with ourselves and the process in order to realize the results The Bar Method offers. I’m approached by my clients every week asking me when they are going to feel this, and when will they be able to do that, and why can’t they get rid of this… and my answer is typically always the same, “be patient, it will come.” Now I don’t mean, be passive about your approach, but I do mean for you to be kind to yourself, learn and live the method and stay present. The truth is, everything worth wanting is worth working for and waiting for. Next time you’re losing patience in class or in life try these three techniques to cultivate more patience for what you’re doing.
1. Acknowledge & Accept
Acknowledge and accept your starting point. You have to do this first before you can expect to move forward. Accept that you’re new to The Bar Method, or that you have some limitations preventing you from doing all 30 push-ups without stopping. We all start from somewhere. Accepting your starting point and not comparing it to where others started will lighten the load in your mind and invite more space in for you to go from point A to point B more gracefully. Patience is the willingness to trust outside forces to guide you in the most appropriate way. It is being open to the unpredictability that comes with letting go of your expectations and then enjoying each moment along the way.
Breathing brings clarity, such as my example in meditation this morning. It allows you to examine your perception of the reality and form a more logical plan to accomplish your goals. You will undoubtedly be tested somewhere along your journey in The Bar Method, where you let frustration and disappointment flood in. Consider that a gift to get back on track. Practice breathing through it and notice yourself become more patient with yourself and the process. Not only will your Bar Method practice evolve, but you’ll start to realize the deeper connection between the work you do inside the studio and the life you live outside of it.
3. Start Small
Be attentive and notice the small stuff. Practice paying attention to the small things happening all around you… when you’re shopping, driving, waiting in line or in class. Tune in to these “small occurrences” and notice the slightest ways in which you might be “off” or on the flip side, the little moments of “gratitude” that present themselves to you. Our awareness of such little gifts is an acknowledgement of “having enough” or “doing enough” in the present moment, and is the ideal antidote to the “need more” mindset of impatience. Start small with this practice, then zoom out and approach other aspects of your life with the same level of awareness. I promise you will notice your threshold of patience expand and impatience dissolve.